Many of my clients ask me the same questions – “How can I find love? How can I strengthen and reenergize the romance in my life?” I answer them by explaining the direct correlation between home and the quality of their relationships. The energy in your home can help you achieve your loving relationship goals.
Love and Marriage and the Feng Shui Bagua:
In the Bagua the Love and Marriage area is located in the back right corner of your home or office, and is particularly associated with “adaptability, devotion and unconditional support.” This area of your home or business is called “Receptive Earth” meaning that to truly love another person you must love yourself, opening your heart to be totally receptive to your partner.
In whichever room this area resides, basic Feng Shui principles can help you nurture and strengthen yourself and your relationships, and even send out the energy to help you find your perfect soul mate.
The Love and Marriage area is located in the right back corner of your home/office/business. Enhancements in this area are particularly helpful if: You want to attract a love relationship, you want to improve a relationship you are currently in, or you want to develop or improve a nurturing, healthy, happy relationship with yourself.
Applying Love and Marriage Enhancements to Other Rooms:
If creating a healthy loving relationship with yourself and another is important to you, you can further energize your home for romance by enhancing the Love and Marriage corner of every room in your home. Remember to start with the Love and Marriage area of your home first and then you can make similar enhancements in every room. This is especially important if you are missing the Love corner from your home.
Regardless of the room the actual enhancements for Love and Marriage are the same. The element for this area is Fire, and the colors are red, pink or white. Representations of this element can be used inside and outside of your home or business, as well as in the right back corner of every room. Enhancements include:
* Photos, paintings, collages or figures depicting your significant other
* Pairs of items (lovers, doves, hearts, candles, vases, figurines etc)
* Art with a romantic theme
* Quotes, affirmations and sayings pertaining to love and marriage
* Items that have a personal association to love and marriage (romantic vacations/honeymoon mementos)
To add supplementary enhancements to other rooms, pick a room and stand at the entrance to the room facing in. This may not necessarily be in the same direction as the front door of your home. Locate the back right corner and place one or more enhancement mentioned above in the space. For example a picture of you and your partner, red/pink orchid with two stems, red/pink candles, a pair of love birds, and romantic art.
Examples of Love Enhancements for Various Rooms:
Kitchen – If the right back corner is by the sink you can add two romantic figurines. If its’ by the stove you can hang a small romantic picture near it. For fun, I also have a red toaster and blender in the corner.
Dining Room – Add a set of romantic salt and pepper shakes, two rose colored candles in beautiful candlesticks or a picture of you and your significant other.
Bathroom – Hang pictures of romantic vacations, a pair of matching candles, or a beautiful flower arrangement in the red spectrum.
Office – Display a picture of you and your significant other, or two paperweights.
Just remember that the choices are endless. Have fun with it!
I’m setting this room apart because it’s one of most important rooms to add Feng Shui Love and Marriage enhancements regardless of the location of this room in your house. The ideal location for a master bedroom is the far back right corner; unfortunately not all homes are built this way. As you decorate your bedroom it is always important to incorporate some of the red spectrum to bring in fire, pairs of items and romantic representations.
If you are single and looking for a relationship, you should design the room as if two people are already living there. For example, make sure to use two nightstands, two lamps, and leave room in the closet. This signifies the intent that you want to share your life with your soul mate. Walls should be any of the colors of natural skin tones; from light cream, pinks, peaches, to warm reds and dark browns. Because the feeling should evoke warmth, coziness and fire, blues, greens, whites, grey and black are too cool for bedroom walls.
A Missing Love and Marriage Area:
If your Love and Marriage area is missing from your home floor plan, you can anchor the area by doing one or a combination of the following cures: structurally close off the corner by building a deck, arbor or overhand, planting a pair of large red flowering plants at the spot of the missing corner, planting a tree and hanging a wind chime representing a pair (hearts or lovebirds), placing a table and 2 chair set, or a large sculpture representing a loving pair.
If the area outside is not accessible, you can symbolically anchor from the inside by hanging a 30 mm round faceted crystal, placing a mirror, and/or a picture of a romantic representation on the wall by the missing corner. If the missing area happens to be a parking lot, you can draw a small symbol of a heart, Yin/Yang sign or the trigram for receptive earth in the exact location, closing off the corner; then enhance this area in every room.
Affirmations and Inner Work:
Remember that in Feng Shui, intent plays a significant role in enhancing any area of your home or business. Intent is the inner work that leads you to a more harmonious life. That’s why all enhancements need to be made with intentionality; written or stated affirmations are very important. It is also important for them to be expressed as if they are already happening.
Examples or affirmations for the “Love and Marriage” area:
“I attract, joy, love and intimacy into my life”, “I love, respect and honor myself”, “My perfect love partner and I are connected in our minds, hearts and spirits, now and always.”
Feng Shui at Work:
One of my clients was in an unhappy relationship that was stuck and going nowhere. In our consultation we focused on her bedroom, which was painted a cool green and featured many pictures of landscapes and water. Nothing signified romance, passion or warmth. She changes the pictures to romantic art, added candles by the bedside tables, and spruced up the room with red tome accents. Shortly after, she and her boyfriend broke up. This may sound like a bad thing but Feng Shui works at giving you what you need in life, not necessarily what you think you want. After getting out of the relationship, she was free to meet the right man. In her new house she followed the lessons she learned in our consultation. She now has a wonderful man in her life and they are expecting their first baby. She couldn’t be happier!
Feng Shui on a Shoestring:
Feng Shui enhancements do not have to cost a great deal. Just the act of writing affirmations and placing them in the back right corner of each room will begin to energize the romance in your life.
This Valentine’s Day create a space in your home and life for a perfect relationship with your perfect mate. Enlist the energy in your environment to help you achieve your goals.
My Valentine Feng Shui column was published in the Contra Costa County Community Focus.
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